First off, Happy February! I hope you all had a wonderful and productive January if not, it’s a new month! Get started on what you didn’t do last month. Need a cheerleader or someone to push you, feel free to reach out to me!
Let’s get started 🙂
Remember in high school, freshman year, it seemed like everyone had a huge group of friends that you always hung around with during lunch and then as the years progressed you enter in your senior year with barely 1 friend you truly loved to be around with?
Have you ever once thought those “Friends” might have been toxic to your life? Maybe you got into an argument with a few of them or just time went on and the communication just…stops.
I had issues with my handful of people throughout all my school life, middle school, high school and even in beauty school. I’m glad my school days are over with, but that doesn’t mean the toxic people don’t exist.
They will always exist.
We all have at least 1 toxic person in our lives but it is up to us to determine who that is and get rid of them ASAP! A toxic person can be a close friend, co-worker and even your own family.
We all have one, do you agree?
Now you’re probably asking. “Franny, how do I know there is a toxic person in my life?”
Well, lemme tell you >:)
Identify the toxic person:
- A person that ALWAYS COMPLAINS…
This is the person that always finds something to complain about.
This type person is very negative! The only time they come to talk you is always something that they hated or was annoyed about. Now it’s okay to vent, but does this person ALWAYS vent? Have they ever come to you on accomplishment they made? Good news? No?
You got a toxic person…
2. Small minded people.
This is the type of person you trust, you love them and want to spread your ideas, ambitions! When you go to tell that person your huge goals and dreams do they always seem to shoot it down and say the “Logical” Answer?
You: “I’m gonna own my own business.”
Toxic Person: “With what money? You know you have to have this level of education first. Do you really have time for that?”
You get the point… It’s annoying! Hurtful and unneeded.
3. The Needed Person…
The “Can’t you do that later?” or “No, I need you now, please, it will only be a minute.” person. This one is needy, they want you to spend all of YOUR time on them and put yourself on the back burner.
You should never have to put yourself last or put the things you want to do on hold unless you have kids. If you do, do you really want someone as the same age as you take your time away? I think not…
Distance yourself from that one. They only care about their needs and no one else. The world revolves around… or so they think. Don’t give them the satisfaction.
4. The one that has a negative mindset.
This one pretty much explains itself. But lemme go into a little detail anyway, this person seems to never have any plans for a future, they’re the ones who are just okay where they are at now, they don’t want or think they can do more with their life. The ones who gave up on dreams for a stupid reason, the one that let their self-critic get the best of them and they let the thought of others soak in.
You don’t need that shit in your life.
Surround yourself with like-minded people. if you do, it will better your life.
5. And the last one I have for today is… Yourself…
Stay with me! I know you probably weren’t expecting that one.
Yes, but you, yourself can be toxic to you…
We all heard the “We are our own worst critic.” While that is true, but do you know why they say that? My thought is because we are so quick to doubt ourselves. The goals we go after seem too far away or feel like it can never happen. The little person in our minds as we work on those goals tell us “You can’t do that! People will hate it! Stop now before you fail.” and etc.
I know this all too well and I know you (the person reading this) does too.
There’s not a day that goes by that I feel like I’m not good enough. Hell, as I write this post my mind is telling me to give up. What do I know about this topic or any topic I posted or will post in near future.
I don’t let that stop me.
So I say to you, yes you are toxic to yourself, but you can’t just get rid of yourself, right? No, it is up to you and only you to work on that. Use that little voice in your head as a motivation mechanism, let the voice drive you.
Prove yourself and everyone that doesn’t believe in you, wrong.
Time to wrap this up, I can go on and on about toxic people but I know your time is limited and so is mine. I will elaborate on this in a podcast or youtube video or maybe a livestream on Facebook or Instagram if you’re up for it. I’m camera shy so give me time lol.
Do yourself a favor and take the toxic person out of your life. It will be hard because like I said it could be a Family member or a best friend. But get rid of them or if you have a soft heart like me, talk to that person. Let them know how you feel and that what they’re are doing is hurting you. I’ve done this several times already to people in my life and I get so sick of repeating myself that I just don’t respond or want to have anything to do with them anymore.
Sometimes it just takes that. Ignoring can be a beautiful thing, some people will say it’s petty, but do what’s right for you.
it’ll help you in the long run. Trust me.
Watch them come running to you once you become successful.
If anyone else has an example of a toxic person or want to share your story, please feel free to comment below and please share this post with someone that is dealing with a toxic person. it may help them 🙂
Thank you for reading, I hope you all have a wonderful month and I’ll see you back here on the 15th.
Thursday, February 15th, 2018 Blog Post will be about Life Purpose.